The Past
well.. just to say, my ex (Cheryl) has made an intervention/restrianing order against me. meaning that im currently living and out of ih for good already. the court case is on tuesday.. whereby the rules and regulations will be made. currently i have an interim order on me, saying i must stay 100m away from her at all times and cease all contact with her. meaning i left ih, and everytime that i do go back, i have to be accompanied by police whereever i go in ih.
now to the events that lead up to this being done. me n cheryl started dating bak in april for like a few weeks before i broke it off with her. saying that i couldnt forget my ex and i wanted one last try before i could forget about her.. she was pissed off over that.. everything went ok till erina, another ex, like just stopped talking to me. moved to wadham. whereby had support from alot of people.. and espcially cheryl. she was seeing another guy at that time. after a few weeks we left for our break on good terms again. she supported me i supported her. i went down to singapore to see her during the break and stuff started happening there... but she did have alot of resentment from the last break up. wen we came bak to ih, we got together again unofficially - more of taking things as they come more than anything else. so we got together, had mini fights here n there.. then slowly things began to get worse. in the end i broke it off with her. had more fights but still saw each other everyday. she always slept with me in my room even after that... then during the midsembreak..everything stopped.. we stopped talking. and after she came bak... went on a trip together an everything came out. from me not caring, cos i didnt ask her whether she was ok or not ..because 'i didnt see her crying'. about im never there. then about her having a new bf. about me touching her and she not liking it.. alot of things. and no i did not rape her or know it was hurting her until she told me... and the last thing she said was like, that the least i could do is be a friend. and thats what i did. after the talks... i tried to act normal with her.. but she kept bring up the past.. and i kept telling her there is nothing i can do about it but apologize and show her in the next few weeks or months that i do want her as a friend and she is important to me. but it kept on going. till 1/10/06.. she asked to talk to me.. i came down..the first thing she said to me was that her semibf .. 'andrew' .. was angry at me and wanted to talk to me. i took that as a threat that he was going to like beat me or smthing.. and i just told her if he does something to me its got nothing to do with me if my friends retaliate.. then she kept on provoking until she asked me whats the worse i could do.. and it just all came out... it was like the last straw for me... i couldnt take it and said everything in my head.. then she just walked off and left... that made me even more fustrated. then i was dumb enough to write it all when i was still letting off alot of steam into an email.. where i did not defend myself.. saying things like.. 'if anything were to happen to me' - meaning if the bf or brothers hurt me physically... and 'soory for everything' - which she used as sexual harassment... so the next day she went to the police and lodged the report..
she stated
1/ she was scared and felt threatened and was unsure of what ild do
2/ i sexually assualted her.. pinned her down and tried to kiss her
3/ used my friends to try to convince her to not follow through
the only evidence that is available is the email that helps her side of the story.. and all i have is my word. and thats how it goes.
stuff that happened since she lodged the report
1/ moved to ih on thursday as a request from peter cole, the deupty head
2/ didnt try to contact her since monday... cept on sunday.. where i was very confused over everything..on the one side..there is the stuff she told the police.. to our mutual friends she said she was confused and didnt mind being friends.. she said it was 'too late' already... her blog was all happy.. so i figured.. i wanted a shot to stop all this.. .and just like stop it and get out of her life.. and stay in ih peacefully until the end of semester.. so i contacted our friends.. and asked them to talk to her... n thts y its in the report now
3/ tuesday was suppsoed to go back to ih. and figure out how things would go... went to get the police interim order.. and needed to call 000 for a police escort to get into ih.. went to see peter... he was angry over me trying to convince her through our friends.. and just told me to leave and that ih will pay me a reinbursement... so packed up alot more of my clothes and books and just left
4/ have to prepare for my courtcase.
5/ have to go bak to ih to collect the rest of my stuff
6/ finding a place to stay next year permanently
right now im living in uropa with my highschool friends.. getting ready my courtcase on tuesday..
thats my life.. =_=;;
now to the events that lead up to this being done. me n cheryl started dating bak in april for like a few weeks before i broke it off with her. saying that i couldnt forget my ex and i wanted one last try before i could forget about her.. she was pissed off over that.. everything went ok till erina, another ex, like just stopped talking to me. moved to wadham. whereby had support from alot of people.. and espcially cheryl. she was seeing another guy at that time. after a few weeks we left for our break on good terms again. she supported me i supported her. i went down to singapore to see her during the break and stuff started happening there... but she did have alot of resentment from the last break up. wen we came bak to ih, we got together again unofficially - more of taking things as they come more than anything else. so we got together, had mini fights here n there.. then slowly things began to get worse. in the end i broke it off with her. had more fights but still saw each other everyday. she always slept with me in my room even after that... then during the midsembreak..everything stopped.. we stopped talking. and after she came bak... went on a trip together an everything came out. from me not caring, cos i didnt ask her whether she was ok or not ..because 'i didnt see her crying'. about im never there. then about her having a new bf. about me touching her and she not liking it.. alot of things. and no i did not rape her or know it was hurting her until she told me... and the last thing she said was like, that the least i could do is be a friend. and thats what i did. after the talks... i tried to act normal with her.. but she kept bring up the past.. and i kept telling her there is nothing i can do about it but apologize and show her in the next few weeks or months that i do want her as a friend and she is important to me. but it kept on going. till 1/10/06.. she asked to talk to me.. i came down..the first thing she said to me was that her semibf .. 'andrew' .. was angry at me and wanted to talk to me. i took that as a threat that he was going to like beat me or smthing.. and i just told her if he does something to me its got nothing to do with me if my friends retaliate.. then she kept on provoking until she asked me whats the worse i could do.. and it just all came out... it was like the last straw for me... i couldnt take it and said everything in my head.. then she just walked off and left... that made me even more fustrated. then i was dumb enough to write it all when i was still letting off alot of steam into an email.. where i did not defend myself.. saying things like.. 'if anything were to happen to me' - meaning if the bf or brothers hurt me physically... and 'soory for everything' - which she used as sexual harassment... so the next day she went to the police and lodged the report..
she stated
1/ she was scared and felt threatened and was unsure of what ild do
2/ i sexually assualted her.. pinned her down and tried to kiss her
3/ used my friends to try to convince her to not follow through
the only evidence that is available is the email that helps her side of the story.. and all i have is my word. and thats how it goes.
stuff that happened since she lodged the report
1/ moved to ih on thursday as a request from peter cole, the deupty head
2/ didnt try to contact her since monday... cept on sunday.. where i was very confused over everything..on the one side..there is the stuff she told the police.. to our mutual friends she said she was confused and didnt mind being friends.. she said it was 'too late' already... her blog was all happy.. so i figured.. i wanted a shot to stop all this.. .and just like stop it and get out of her life.. and stay in ih peacefully until the end of semester.. so i contacted our friends.. and asked them to talk to her... n thts y its in the report now
3/ tuesday was suppsoed to go back to ih. and figure out how things would go... went to get the police interim order.. and needed to call 000 for a police escort to get into ih.. went to see peter... he was angry over me trying to convince her through our friends.. and just told me to leave and that ih will pay me a reinbursement... so packed up alot more of my clothes and books and just left
4/ have to prepare for my courtcase.
5/ have to go bak to ih to collect the rest of my stuff
6/ finding a place to stay next year permanently
right now im living in uropa with my highschool friends.. getting ready my courtcase on tuesday..
thats my life.. =_=;;
posted by Gin at 4:33 am
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